Divorce The Bright Side of the Story




Divorce Can Lead Out and Up

Most people assume when they see a divorce that he or she is facing his or her worst nightmare. Maybe that's not true. Others may see divorce as a curse on society. I don't, divorce has been a boon in disguise for me.

I'm Susan. Years ago I had girlish dreams of an excellent education, rewarding career, and a large gorgeous home. After college I married John, a local accountant. Our marriage started out wonderfully. We had a baby in our second year. Taking care of little Elizabeth, the household, and John occupied all my time. Time flew by and I realized it had been months since hearing from my sorority sisters. My family had become my entire world. Then destiny took a cruel turn.

My marriage to John had a few hiccups. Maybe the bumps in the road were inevitable. At some point I recognized a definite drift down. A major RIF (Reduction in Force) left John with no job. Turmoil entered our life, John spent less time at home, and often came home very late. Usually when he arrived home he was drunk. When I questioned him about his actions, he beat me black and blue.

One dreadful night, John came home drunk and hardly able to walk. He and I got into a terrible brawl. Elizabeth screamed and tried to stop us. He pushed her away with one big push. i immediately rushed her to a hospital where emergency room staff spent 40 minutes before admitting her. I decided on that day that John's actions were unacceptable. the next day I started divorce action.

I took my Masters in English Literature at Cambridge University. I got a good job teaching English at a college in downtown London. For me and Elizabeth life was back on track. When I saved enough I bought a beautiful home in the English countryside. Now, twenty years after the divorce
I am a Dean at the University where I started my serious education. Elizabeth is a researcher in biotechnology. I am extremely happy today.

Final Comments - Divorce
Divorce will not solve all your problems quickly. Often it is the necessary first step on a road to freedom. The time interval from first thought of divorce to a definite need may be short or long.
Initial consideration is never enthusiastic, but the need may become an essential for life. Trying to cope with a control-freak or an abuser is not possible within a relationship. When the time comes take your freedom and your child to a safe place.

My divorce lead me to a fresh start and new chapter in life. I am the boss of me and I live life fully. My life is peaceful and free of stress. Marriage is the result of a bond of love and a commitment for life. Acting responsibly in a relationship is required equally of both partners. In the middle of a divorce the approaching huge roadblock may produce unexpected gifts. These gifts may extend beyond your wildest dreams.